3rd Alternative Thinking. To arrive at a 3rd Alternative, I must first practice self-awareness and value the different viewpoint that you represent. Then I must seek to understand that viewpoint thoroughly. Only then can we move up to synergy.
The 4 Steps to Synergy. This process helps you put the synergy principle to work. (1) Show willingness to find a 3rd Alternative. (2) Define what success looks like to everyone. (3) Experiment with solutions until you arrive at (4) synergy.